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How to detach and stop letting people trigger you

Stop Letting People Trigger You: How to DETACH and STAY at Peace

June 30, 20254 min read

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Have you ever had one random comment wreck your whole day?

Maybe someone hit you with a slick remark like,

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👉🏾 “You’re being sensitive,”
👉🏾 “You’ve changed,”
👉🏾 or “You’re overreacting.”

And suddenly… your whole energy shifts.

Your chest tightens. You overthink. You spiral.
All from a few words.

That’s not peace — that’s programming. And sis, it’s time to unlearn it.

In this article, I’m breaking down how to stop letting people trigger you, how to detach emotionally, and how to finally protect your peace — no matter what’s going on around you. This is personal. It’s powerful. And if you apply what you learn here, it’s life-changing.

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Why Do We Let People Trigger Us?

The truth? Most of us weren’t taught emotional boundaries. We were taught to people-please, to stay silent, to “be nice,” even when it hurt us.

So when someone says something that hits an old wound — even if it’s subtle — we don’t just react to them, we react to the history behind the feeling.

Psychologist Carl Jung once said,

“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.”

Let that marinate.

You’re not reacting to the text that was left on “read.”
You’re reacting to the version of you that felt abandoned before.

You’re not just annoyed by the sarcastic joke.
You’re reacting from the years you were belittled or dismissed.

Triggers are echoes of unhealed pain.

And that’s where emotional detachment becomes your superpower.

What Emotional Detachment Really Is (and Isn’t)

Let’s clear something up:
Detachment is not apathy.
It’s not shutting down.
It’s not pretending you don’t care.

It’s caring without carrying.

It means:

  • You stop arguing with people committed to misunderstanding you.

  • You stop seeking closure from those who never gave it.

  • You stop letting other people’s projections disrupt your peace.

Think of your emotions like weather.
Detachment is you carrying an umbrella — not pretending it’s not raining.

What to Do When You're Triggered

Here are 4 tools to help you detach with grace:

1. Pause Before You React
Count to five. Touch your heart. Say out loud: “I choose peace.”

2. Journal It Out
Ask yourself:

  • What happened?

  • What belief got triggered?

  • What do I really need right now?

Sometimes it’s not the situation. It’s the story you’ve attached to it.

3. Re-Parent Your Inner Child
That part of you that feels rejected? It’s still you.
Offer yourself the comfort and validation you didn’t get back then.

4. Reframe Rejection
If you’ve been turned down — for a job, a loan, a relationship — don’t spiral.

Instead, repeat this: “Rejection is not a reflection of my worth. It’s redirection.”

💡 Remember Sara Blakely (Spanx) and Mary Kay Ash (Mary Kay Cosmetics)?

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They were both rejected multiple times before building billion-dollar brands. Their stories prove that sometimes the “no” is really a detour to your destiny.

The Domino Effect of Peace 🧘🏾‍♀️

At DFX, we talk a lot about The Domino Effect — how one small shift creates massive change.

When you learn to pause before reacting…
When you start setting boundaries…
When you stop giving people the power to wreck your day…

That creates a ripple — in your relationships, your business, your health, your legacy.

People won’t stop talking.

But you can stop letting them steal your power.

You don’t need their approval. You don’t need to be understood.
You need to be centered.

So the next time something triggers you, try this instead:

  • Pause.

  • Breathe.

  • Remind yourself: I am not what they say. I am what I decide.

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The Next Step 💬

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